Teaching patience through fruit and clothes…

Bohemian – Day 26


I am not a very patient person.  As a mom, if I’m stuck in traffic or a long line at the grocery store, I can’t help but think, there are so many other things I should be doing right now.  I could be changing that dentist appointment or buying paint for my daughter’s shelves or doing those butt firming exercises I read about in “Disgusting butts and how to fix them”.  I probably could do butt exercises while in line at the grocery, but my children would first  kill me, then die of embarrassment, which would make the line even slower and anger the other impatient moms standing behind us.

But patience is so necessary in life.  I know the French actively teach their kids patience because they feel it is such an important life skill.  I started looking for ways to help teach both me and my children patience and I realized I was already doing two biggies in the patience department.

Fruit:  About ten years ago as I was biting into yet another hard, flavorless peach and I began to wonder what happened to fruit?  Didn’t fruit used to taste good?  After doing a little research, I discovered fruit went bad when it went global.  It gets picked too early so that it can survive the thousands of miles it has to travel to our doorsteps so that we can be disappointed when we bite into a raspberry that is as tender and juicy as a shoe.

So even before I had kids, I gave up eating fruit out of season.  Sure, you have to wait for it (hence, the patience part), but the waiting is so worth it!  Our local strawberry stand opened up last week and when we drove past it and my kids saw the “open” sign, they actually screamed… for fruit.  Isn’t that great?  We will now eat about two thousand strawberries for the next three months and then we won’t eat them again for a whole year – and that’s okay.


(Full disclosure – I wait for all fruit, except for bananas.  I don’t even consider bananas a fruit.  I consider them on a short list of things my children need to live — air and bananas.  Even if we were on a trip to Antarctica, I’d look for some place that sold bananas.)

Clothes:  “My Year of Fabulous” has been my big lesson on patience.  Before I started this experiment, I thought that if I studied fashion magazines enough and bought the right clothes, then I could fix my fashion problem pretty quickly.  Wrong.  Learning any language (and fashion is a language) takes patience.  I’ve been trying to look fabulous every day now for over a hundred days and just the other day I walked out of the house like a mustard train wreck.


I’m telling you this because if you’re fashion-challenged like me, and you want to look better, give it time.  It takes patience and practice to learn the different styles and more importantly, what style feels best on you – and that’s okay.

But I’m going to definitely have to search for even more ways to learn patience because just the other day my friend snapped this picture of me –


I had started to drive away from school before my children were actually in the car.  Oh, patience, why must you allude me so?


  • Lesia says:

    Eating produce that’s in season (locally) is widely recommended for ecological reasons, but I’ve never heard it suggested as a way to help your children love fruits and vegetables – because they’re tastiest then. It’s a great idea and I look forward to trying it with my family.

    Loved the lines in your piece where you “wonder what happened to fruit” and ask, “Didn’t fruit used to taste good?” These take me back to my childhood. I remember looking forward to our last trip to the cottage in the fall because we could pick up a bushel from an orchard on the way home, and picking our own strawberries in summer on a farm open to the public (and my brothers and me eating as much as we put into our pint containers).

    • My Year of Fabulous says:

      It’s so true about fruit and all things for humans — if you can’t have it all the time, you just want it more!

  • Becky says:

    I agree with giving bananas a pass. Aren’t they a rainforest sort of tropical fruit? Since I get the impression tropical rainforests only have the 1 season, I’m thinking that they really are always in season.

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