Having it all in a maxi dress…

Gamine – Day 18


Congratulations, Anne (junkforanne)!  You are the winner of the strapless maxi!  I don’t know where you live, but I’ll try to mail it to you before winter strikes and you begin cursing my name.

Amy, a former maxi dress winner, sent me some fabulous pictures of herself in her winning dress —


Amy did two versions of the dress — one with a white belt for summer and one with a jacket for fall.  I think Amy looks amazing in both styles and she obviously knows fashion.  I would have never thought of a “summer” and “fall” look for the same dress.

As far as the question of “having it all” goes, it seems like the phrase just might have been coined by famous Cosmo editor, Helen Gurley Brown.  Personally, I don’t like the question, “Can women have it all?” because I think it’s the wrong question to be asking.  Women certainly can have it all (work and family), we do it all the time, but can we have it all and be happy?  Some women can and some women can’t.  It’s a personal decision that we have to make for ourselves (if we are fortunate enough to be able to make those decisions in the first place).

For me, I think the search for happiness and fulfillment in life is more important than the quest for having all of something.  I had a big career before having kids and I was quite certain I would keep working when I became a mom.  I was so wrong.  I couldn’t at all exist simultaneously in both the working world and the kid world — I just felt like my head was going to explode and I ended up just being bad at my job and tired with my kids.

Hence, the farm and many, many, many dramatic life changes.  For a while, I felt like I really let the women’s movement down — you know, by quitting my career I just made the whole team look bad.  But now I think differently.  I made a decision that was right for me that took a lot of courage and strength.  It’s not easy to go from a big salary to wiping butts for free, but I did it, and I’m really happy about it (most days).

So let’s stop asking the question, “Can women have it all?”  Women can and do have it all… the important thing is getting to choose exactly what that all is.








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